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Setting Boundaries in Sobriety
How to Restore Marital Equilibrium in Recovery
Dating While (Newly) Sober
The Walk
Men… I’ve Always Been Obsessed With Them
Neil Strauss' Evolution
Tattoos, Love, and Recovery
Act Like a Lady
6 Steps to Address Relationship Issues in Recovery
Setting Our Abound-aries: Dating and Sobriety
My First Sober Heartbreak
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@Sergei - you'd be so lucky as to be in the same room with someone as hot as Matisse. As for "dour and humourless", oh please. Perhaps you should read a little more from the person you're trying to characterise in that way -- but then again, she doesn't actually need 12-year-old boys like you as "readers".
@BurlyGirl - get a grip. Non-monogamy essentialists like you are just as bad as the fundamentalist HOLY MONOGAMY FOREVURRR types that give us shit.
In every human quality I can think of, there is a spectrum. This includes sexuality. Which also includes monogamy/non-monogamy. A spectrum means that you WILL have asexual people, celibate-by-choice people, lifetime monogamous, serially monogamous, whatever that "closed-poly" thing is I can't remember, polys, swingers and sluts (by which I mean people who don't do relationships at all, nothing negative).
And while many people may not currently be aware of the full range of options, it doesn't mean that everyone will become automatic screw-anything exponents as soon as they see the light. Me, I'm poly, and I'm happy to have casual flings from time to time (when I'm in relationships and when I'm not). There's no way in hell you'll get me to an orgy or swingers' event, but that's my personal aversion to group or public sex. That's where I am on the spectrum.
Trix on October 21, 2010 at 1:58 AM · Report this
12My only complaint is when people who are sneaking around on a partner say "oh, but I'm poly, I can't help myself." Being a cheating POS is still being a cheating POS, no matter what excuse you use to cover it up. Otherwise, go on and have the fun you want with the partners you want.
BakerB on October 21, 2010 at 8:21 AM · Report this
13#10 proves the adage that anyone on the internet whose screename includes either "raven" or "wolf" in it is an irredeemably humorless twunt.
That said, I think Matisse's writing over the last 6 months has been alot less boring and self-congratulatory than it used to be.
Rip City Hustle on October 21, 2010 at 10:38 AM · Report this
14@Sergei: You have obviously never *seen* MM. Sun shines out of her pussy? I think I got a little tan just talking to her at a party once! I don't agree with everything she says, but I don't care if she's 22 or 82, the woman is smokin hot.
Larkshead on October 21, 2010 at 11:44 AM · Report this
15Well the word "polyamory" is a sin against language as it is, maybe it's time for a rebranding campaign?
Collin on October 21, 2010 at 4:07 PM · Report this
16The problem I've always had is that I -need- a word like polyamory. When I tell people I'm poly, the first thing they ask is always "so what, you just fuck other people?" To which I always have to explain "No, we're not swingers."
It isn't that I have some kind of moral high ground about being Poly[tm], it's that the "literal poly" definition is the -correct- one for me; my husband and I occasionally date other people, and sometimes those relationships get serious. To call this "nonmonogamy" isn't demeaning or dirty or anything moral; it's just *incorrect*.
Maybe people who get all purist about polyamory are doing it because that's the strongest available word for the people at the far end of the spectrum who really want a strong term. If everyone out there uses "poly" to describe "swinging", then why even have multiple words?
In short, I agree with the sentiment and we're not widely enough accepted as a lifestyle to turn people away. But if we can't properly describe the spectrum of possibilities, how can we be sure we've gotten everyone?
Setting Boundaries in Sobriety
How to Restore Marital Equilibrium in Recovery
Dating While (Newly) Sober
The Walk
Men… I’ve Always Been Obsessed With Them
Neil Strauss' Evolution
Tattoos, Love, and Recovery
Act Like a Lady
6 Steps to Address Relationship Issues in Recovery
Setting Our Abound-aries: Dating and Sobriety
My First Sober Heartbreak
5 Surprising Ways PTSD Affected My Relationships
@Sergei - you'd be so lucky as to be in the same room with someone as hot as Matisse. As for "dour and humourless", oh please. Perhaps you should read a little more from the person you're trying to characterise in that way -- but then again, she doesn't actually need 12-year-old boys like you as "readers".
@BurlyGirl - get a grip. Non-monogamy essentialists like you are just as bad as the fundamentalist HOLY MONOGAMY FOREVURRR types that give us shit.
In every human quality I can think of, there is a spectrum. This includes sexuality. Which also includes monogamy/non-monogamy. A spectrum means that you WILL have asexual people, celibate-by-choice people, lifetime monogamous, serially monogamous, whatever that "closed-poly" thing is I can't remember, polys, swingers and sluts (by which I mean people who don't do relationships at all, nothing negative).
And while many people may not currently be aware of the full range of options, it doesn't mean that everyone will become automatic screw-anything exponents as soon as they see the light. Me, I'm poly, and I'm happy to have casual flings from time to time (when I'm in relationships and when I'm not). There's no way in hell you'll get me to an orgy or swingers' event, but that's my personal aversion to group or public sex. That's where I am on the spectrum.
Trix on October 21, 2010 at 1:58 AM · Report this
12My only complaint is when people who are sneaking around on a partner say "oh, but I'm poly, I can't help myself." Being a cheating POS is still being a cheating POS, no matter what excuse you use to cover it up. Otherwise, go on and have the fun you want with the partners you want.
BakerB on October 21, 2010 at 8:21 AM · Report this
13#10 proves the adage that anyone on the internet whose screename includes either "raven" or "wolf" in it is an irredeemably humorless twunt.
That said, I think Matisse's writing over the last 6 months has been alot less boring and self-congratulatory than it used to be.
Rip City Hustle on October 21, 2010 at 10:38 AM · Report this
14@Sergei: You have obviously never *seen* MM. Sun shines out of her pussy? I think I got a little tan just talking to her at a party once! I don't agree with everything she says, but I don't care if she's 22 or 82, the woman is smokin hot.
Larkshead on October 21, 2010 at 11:44 AM · Report this
15Well the word "polyamory" is a sin against language as it is, maybe it's time for a rebranding campaign?
Collin on October 21, 2010 at 4:07 PM · Report this
16The problem I've always had is that I -need- a word like polyamory. When I tell people I'm poly, the first thing they ask is always "so what, you just fuck other people?" To which I always have to explain "No, we're not swingers."
It isn't that I have some kind of moral high ground about being Poly[tm], it's that the "literal poly" definition is the -correct- one for me; my husband and I occasionally date other people, and sometimes those relationships get serious. To call this "nonmonogamy" isn't demeaning or dirty or anything moral; it's just *incorrect*.
Maybe people who get all purist about polyamory are doing it because that's the strongest available word for the people at the far end of the spectrum who really want a strong term. If everyone out there uses "poly" to describe "swinging", then why even have multiple words?
In short, I agree with the sentiment and we're not widely enough accepted as a lifestyle to turn people away. But if we can't properly describe the spectrum of possibilities, how can we be sure we've gotten everyone?