Don’t Look Down
Dating (My Ex-Husband) After Divorce
Post-divorce life is turning out to be very interesting
To Avoid a Broken Heart, Do Not Love
My Last Days as Someone’s Wife
On Taking the Easy Way Out
When Your Soon-to-Be Ex Is Your Soul Mate
Scorched Earth
First Rule of a Positive Divorce
5 Things That Changed My Divorce
If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. And Other Lies
The Last Divorce Writer Rides Again
May Divorce Be With You
Next Time You See Me, I’ll Be Laughing at Divorce
Even Though We're Divorcing, I Want You to Be Happy (And Other B.S. Tales)
(whatever reaction, tease her and roleplay here a bit then cut her off)
“Honestly the reason I didn’t call her…well I shouldn’t tell you it’ll make me sound like an asshole lol (tell me!!!) okay well she honestly wasn’t very good in bed…but she thinks she’s hot shit and has no idea and I don’t think anyone will tell her because she’s hot lol what do you think, should I be honest about it or just avoid her? I really don’t even want to hook up with her again lol”
Now this isn’t going to get you laid, but it’s going to take you down a different path than your routine stack has been taking you down so far. The main purpose of this is just to demonstrate to yourself “okay if I talk about ninja turtles and puppies I end up in this place and the vibe has this feeling…but if I talk about sex and hooking up, I end up in THIS place and the vibe has this other feeling.”
A lot of pickup is about guiding and redirecting the flow of the conversation toward your goal. So if the girl talks about sex, cool, you can sit back and let that river flow. But if she’s talking about puppies you throw in a little innuendo by misinterpreting something she said in a sexual way and now you’ve guided that river back on course.
Now keep in mind this stuff will get you blown out harder and shit-tested more and it’ll feel incongruent at first, which sucks because its like “but I want results naaaooowwwww!” but remember we’re looking at this long-term, you could spend all winter just getting this down before you start getting laid. We’re talking 1000 sets not 20, you know? Down the road you’ll be more consistent, like these days I can open and build basic attraction with most sets no problem, but my game/state is pretty consistent from going out a lot…as a new guy your game/state is going to fluctuate like crazy through massive highs and lows all night long until you start to stabilize it. It’s like someone throwing their first few punches of their life vs a boxer who’s been training for a while. They’re both punching but the boxer’s accuracy is going to be consistent compared to the wild swings of the other guy.
Also remember that getting more polarized reactions is okay because we know passing shit-tests builds attraction so down the road you’ll be able to pass their shit-tests and capitalize on the emotional roller-coaster you put them through.
Dating (My Ex-Husband) After Divorce
Post-divorce life is turning out to be very interesting
To Avoid a Broken Heart, Do Not Love
My Last Days as Someone’s Wife
On Taking the Easy Way Out
When Your Soon-to-Be Ex Is Your Soul Mate
Scorched Earth
First Rule of a Positive Divorce
5 Things That Changed My Divorce
If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. And Other Lies
The Last Divorce Writer Rides Again
May Divorce Be With You
Next Time You See Me, I’ll Be Laughing at Divorce
Even Though We're Divorcing, I Want You to Be Happy (And Other B.S. Tales)
(whatever reaction, tease her and roleplay here a bit then cut her off)
“Honestly the reason I didn’t call her…well I shouldn’t tell you it’ll make me sound like an asshole lol (tell me!!!) okay well she honestly wasn’t very good in bed…but she thinks she’s hot shit and has no idea and I don’t think anyone will tell her because she’s hot lol what do you think, should I be honest about it or just avoid her? I really don’t even want to hook up with her again lol”
Now this isn’t going to get you laid, but it’s going to take you down a different path than your routine stack has been taking you down so far. The main purpose of this is just to demonstrate to yourself “okay if I talk about ninja turtles and puppies I end up in this place and the vibe has this feeling…but if I talk about sex and hooking up, I end up in THIS place and the vibe has this other feeling.”
A lot of pickup is about guiding and redirecting the flow of the conversation toward your goal. So if the girl talks about sex, cool, you can sit back and let that river flow. But if she’s talking about puppies you throw in a little innuendo by misinterpreting something she said in a sexual way and now you’ve guided that river back on course.
Now keep in mind this stuff will get you blown out harder and shit-tested more and it’ll feel incongruent at first, which sucks because its like “but I want results naaaooowwwww!” but remember we’re looking at this long-term, you could spend all winter just getting this down before you start getting laid. We’re talking 1000 sets not 20, you know? Down the road you’ll be more consistent, like these days I can open and build basic attraction with most sets no problem, but my game/state is pretty consistent from going out a lot…as a new guy your game/state is going to fluctuate like crazy through massive highs and lows all night long until you start to stabilize it. It’s like someone throwing their first few punches of their life vs a boxer who’s been training for a while. They’re both punching but the boxer’s accuracy is going to be consistent compared to the wild swings of the other guy.
Also remember that getting more polarized reactions is okay because we know passing shit-tests builds attraction so down the road you’ll be able to pass their shit-tests and capitalize on the emotional roller-coaster you put them through.